Decisions, decisions...

I consider myself fairly decisive, but lots of my clients really struggle with decision making, endlessly reconsidering the options in their minds.

Yesterday I watched a Ted Talk by Barry Schwartz on choice and realised that I have imposed on myself lots of rules regarding decision making which allow me to be free [for the most part] of the constant re-evaluating.

There are two different decision making scenarios. In the one there is a vast choice of options such as "where would I like to travel?", or "which shoes shall I buy?". In the other there is an either/or situation, for examples"shall I accept this job offer?" or "Is now the time to trade in my car?". The rules apply to both, but the either/or situation is more exhaustive. So...

Rule 1

Take the time to really think about the decision.

We tend to do a lot of our thinking in the background while busy with life, and it leads to anxiety and tension. Put time aside and draw up a list of pros and cons or think about what you actually want. Getting it down on paper is really just a way of applying your mind to the task.

For decisions that are more risky [new job] or will make a large imprint on your life [overseas trip] apply the following too.

Rule 1a

Discuss your decisions with people you trust.

This is to make sure you have covered all the possible angles. I, for example, am not a broad thinker, so I take my decision to a friend and she then asks all sorts of questions I have not considered. 

Rule 2 

Limit your options.

You could do this by using a budget, applying a time limit or deadline or by venue. So, if I'm shopping for shoes I would only go to Cavendish, or only Access Park. Or I would think first where I would be most likely to find what I want and go there. 

Rule 3

Let go of what might have been.

I think this is the true thorn in the flesh. Making a decision involves a loss, even if we're getting something we perceive as better - if I accept the promotion I still loose my old job. If I buy that pair of shoes there are all the shoes I didn't buy that are potentially better.

Accept that this decision was made, after consideration, with the information available TODAY. Hindsight is the fuel of regret.

Rule 4

Appreciate and embrace what you got as a result of your decision.

Enjoy the shoes. Love the holiday. Treasure the wall colour. Embrace the new job. 

Do you struggle with decision making and what strategies have you come up with?